“The bad news is time flies but the good news is you are the pilot.”
Happy New Year!
In a distant I can hear my parents say that as you get older, time just slips out of your hand and now I have to very wholeheartedly agree with them.
Just last week my oldest childhood friend celebrated her 24th birthday. We have had met when we were 7 and now 17 years later we eat another slice of cake for her.
But with the quote above, I do believe I am the pilot of my time.
Sure it may go fast but make it productive and fill it with memories so when you reminisce back, you have something concrete to define your year.
I know usually I spew out many resolutions but this year I decided to keep it very simple:
1) Stop saying yes to everything – I know, such a contradiction to last year when I said I would never refuse anything because I was inspired by the movie Yes Man. But like him, I’ve realized I can’t do everything and it’s not fair to those I made a commitment to if I cannot provide 100% quality me.
2) Love hard – Well I am a hopeless romantic with defense walls that an army couldn’t blast down. Yet another contradiction since I spent the last few years building a thick skin and working on my trust skills etc but now I decided you can’t live life in fear of getting hurt. You must trust faith. Now that I found someone who is so deserving and amazing I must love him hard, I mean is there really any other way to love? Love your family & friends just as hard and know a life full of love is better any day that a life full of toxic negativity.
3) Wrap up– As my birthday approaches and I realize next year I will be 25, I want to wrap things up during this phase of my life. Open a new chapter. Be it that I go hard and try to graduate before December, move out or visit another continent. I want something to define that a new chapter has indeed begun. No more transitional years.
I’ll leave this post with a story that I want to remind myself every time I get caught up in the little things in life and to remind me what this year is supposed to be about:
The Mayo Jar Story:
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “yes”.
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, ” I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things in life. Your family, your children, your health, your beliefs, your friends, and your favorite passions – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car.
The sand is everything else, the small stuff.
“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the garbage disposal.
Take care of the golf balls first; the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”